My Thoughts on Mother's Day

The Definition of a Mother:

As we head towards Mother’s Day, I decided to look up the definition of Mother in the dictionary and I have to say I was pretty irritated by what it said. It reads that a Mother is “anyone who has bore a child”. Sure that’s one way to become a mother, but to me there is so much more that makes a woman a mother. My definition of a Mother would be the one who raises, loves, cares for, teaches, comforts, and guides a child through their life. Mother to me is the one who provides the safety and security in their child’s heart that makes them know that no matter what they are loved and they will always have a place to call home, a shoulder to cry on, and arms to be held in. Mother’s provide love. We provide a safe place for our children. To me, that’s what makes a person a mother.

So with Mother’s Day right around the corner I was thinking tonight about the many emotions this day brings with it. Among others, there is joy, sorrow, and sometimes even anger and frustration.

Joy to me is of course the overwhelming happiness and joy you feel when you become a mother. Whether it is when the pregnancy test reads positive, when you hold your child or baby in your arms for the first time, when they first say mom or dad, or when they look at you and you can just see in their eyes that they feel safe. The joys of being a mom are endless.

But the sorrows too can be endless. Mother’s Day can be very difficult for many women. For those that are anxiously awaiting their chance to be a mother, for those who are mother’s but their precious gifts are with God, for those birthmother’s who hearts and minds wonder how their sons and daughters are doing, for those Mothers and Grandmother’s who have left this world. It seems there can be as much endless sorrow as joy associated with this day.

Anger and frustration are emotions most probably don’t think of as being associated with Mothers Day but for some children who’s first experience with a mother was painful anger may be there, and for some awaiting moms you too may have some days when you feel anger and frustration. Anger is a natural emotion we all face. It comes easy but it doesn’t always leave so easily. Don’t let that anger be your emotion for too long. Don’t let it have too much of your time or too much of your heart and soul. I believe that those who have the strong desire in their heart to be a mother will be a mother. I believe God would not give you this gift if it wasn’t meant to be fulfilled. And I hope and pray that those innocent children hurt by others will find the safety and security of a family and overcome those hurtful times.

This day is one that you may have a different reaction to based on your own circumstances. But whatever your emotions take a moment to remember your mother, or other mother’s you admire, maybe a birthmother, a grandmother, or maybe even a person who wasn’t your mother but that was a great influence on you. Mother’s Day to me is to honor all those women are devoted to making the lives of our children better. So for that I thank them and I thank you. I hope you all have a wonderful Mother’s Day.